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The Facebook Self-Check. A Love Story.

14 Oct

Hello, my name is Kerry O’Grady…and I’m in love with Facebook.

The first step is admitting you have a problem, right?

I was a late social media bloomer. When Facebook was hot, I had no interest. I didn’t join until 2009. Once I did, I became fascinated with friending, liking, status-updating, inviting, etc. Three and a half years later, I still can’t get enough. I track social media influencers, am an avid commenter, and am the first person to wish someone a happy birthday. What I can’t pinpoint is WHY I’m so obsessed. I’m a crazy-busy 29-year-old. Don’t I have better things to do? What is it about Facebook?

This fall, I’m guest-lecturing the graduate level social media class at NYU. A few weeks ago, I conducted a lesson on the current social media landscape and leading practices. I spent a good 15 minutes on why people use social media. Some of these reasons included meeting new people, entertainment, and coupons/promotions. If I could dissect why the universe uses social media (as a whole), then I could certainly dissect why I’m (personally) so obsessed with Facebook, right? It’s time for some soul-searching.

I spent a good two days making a list of all the reasons why I love Facebook. After looking at the list, I realized I’m pretty awesome at lying to myself. My list included “research for my students,” “capstone topics,” “monitoring for work,” “remembering birthdays,” and things of the like. Sure, these are rational reasons for my unhealthy attachment, but they aren’t true. The truth to why I’m so obsessed lies deep. It’s time for the real Facebook Kerry O’Grady to please stand up. I threw away my list and decided to get real. Here are the top five reasons why I’m so in love with Facebook:

1. They Like Me, They Really Like Me!: I was never a cheerleader. I never made out with the football captain. I wasn’t homecoming queen. I suck at all sports that require coordination. I’ve always been a huge dork. In high school, I was a floater. I got along with everyone. I had the same experience in college and in the workforce. However, the term “popular” never really suited me. On Facebook, with over 1,000 friends, I feel super popular. It’s a strange sense of awesomeness. Simply, I can’t get enough.

2. Funny Girl: For anyone who knows me, I’m pretty (love-ably) awkward. I deliver jokes a little too late. Sometimes, I say things that make no sense (but they do in my head, I swear). I also have the innate ability to interject myself into conversations at the worst times possible (for example, someone will be talking about cooking chicken and somehow, when I join in, the conversation will turn into how I was a chicken for Halloween once. Fail). The thing is, I’m a writer. By nature, my delivery on paper is much better than my delivery in person. One of my biggest joys in life is making people laugh. When I can do this through a status update or comment, it truly makes my day. On Facebook, I don’t come off awkward. I come off comically gifted. I can totally live with that.

3. Baby, You’re a Star: I’ll admit it. I love seeing myself in pictures. This is not because I love seeing how I looked or I want everyone to see who I was with. There are two reasons why I love uploading pictures to Facebook: First, I love capturing memories with my friends and sharing them with each other without the annoyance of emailing/photo developing. Secondly, (don’t judge me), I love photo-bombing. I’m sorry, this is true. I love finding myself in random pictures on Facebook and being like, “Dude, I don’t even remember taking that picture…and who WAS that guy?” It always makes for a good story.

4. From the Peanut Gallery: I love (love) giving advice. If I wasn’t a writer/marketer/teacher, I so would fulfill my lifelong dream of becoming a psychologist. However, not everyone wants your comments or advice. Actually, most of the time they don’t. On Facebook, I don’t have to hold my tongue – I can comment and give advice as much as I want, without being asked. Hellooooo comment field. Dr. Kerry, in the house (woot woot).

5. Reconnecting: Because I’m a hugely relational person, people are the focus of my existence. I spend a lot of time thinking about others, especially when I haven’t spoken to them in awhile. However, my life is nuts. I don’t have much time to call or email friends. This is especially true with my out-of-town friends, as I’m forever trying to make phone dates that sometimes never come to fruition. With Facebook, I can easily let them know I’m thinking about them in less than 2.5 seconds, no matter how long it’s been. It also makes me feel better about my sporadic phone calls or hours-in-between text messages. Now, if only my parents would join Facebook…

In short, Facebook and I have a bond that can’t easily be broken. We laugh together. We cry together. We over-share together. I’ve embraced the real motives behind our relationship. I challenge you to do the same.